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Husband returns to family after 28 years of infidelity
Time:2025-09-01 Views:603
52 year old Zhang Lingyu (pseudonym) suddenly discovered that her husband had a 15-year-old illegitimate child. The husband claimed that he no longer had any contact with his lover, and now taking care of his illegitimate child is just fulfilling his obligation, but Zhang Lingyu cannot believe him. At her current age, she doesn't want a divorce. She didn't know what to do. Zhang Lingyu recounted her pain:
I am 52 years old and have been married to my husband Wang Zhi (pseudonym) for 28 years. Wang Zhi is honest and honest, one year older than me. After getting married, Wang Zhi treated me well. He competes with me to cook, mop the floor, wash dishes, and do laundry, never complaining. My relatives and friends all say that I have found a good husband. After the birth of our daughter and son, our family was filled with more joy. He loves his children very much and always carries them around the house every time he comes home. Every time he comes home from a business trip, he brings back a pile of gifts. In 1990, Wang Zhisheng relocated. We brought our parents in law and family from the county town to Baoding city. From then on, I never looked for a job again, but instead spent my days shuttling between my husband and children, becoming a full-time housewife. Occasionally, Wang Zhi also takes me out to meet his friends. He has a fellow villager named Wen Yan. Once, Wang Zhi and I attended their fellow villagers' gathering. Wen Yan sang a song called 'Star Wish'. Everyone speaks highly of her singing. I also have a deep impression of her. Later on, due to their work relationship, Wen Yan and Wang Zhi often interacted with each other, and we became familiar with each other through frequent exchanges. Originally, Wen Yan's experience was very bumpy. Her husband passed away due to illness in his early years, and she lived alone with her child, without her parents by her side. Life was indeed not easy. I sympathize with her very much. Wen Yan is not only beautiful and graceful in her actions, but also enthusiastic towards others. I remember seven or eight years ago, Wang Zhi went to study in another city for six months, and coincidentally, his mother-in-law fell ill and was hospitalized again. I take care of both the young and the old by myself. The hospital is too busy to cook for the children, so Wen Yan helps me take care of them. Even my daughter keeps telling me that Aunt Wen Yan is a good person. But I have always been puzzled why such a good woman no longer finds someone to marry into, and why she has to work hard alone to take care of her children. But due to face saving concerns, I feel embarrassed to ask her.
A few years ago, I heard that Wen Yan had started her own company. In my impression, she hardly ever looked for my husband again. My contact with Wen Yan has also decreased, and I haven't seen her again for several years. Day by day, the children have found their own jobs. I thought this life would be spent so peacefully and happily. But I never expected that my husband would have an affair with Wen Yan and also have a 15-year-old child! That was one month ago when my son's workplace issued a shopping voucher worth 600 yuan. Because the shopping mall where the shopping voucher is located is quite far from our home, it has not been used. A few days ago, I was bored at home and took a bus for over half an hour to go to that mall. When I walked into that shopping mall, I didn't expect to see Wang Zhi and Wen Yan, along with a boy, inside the mall. They are buying clothes for that boy. The two appear to be intimately connected. I didn't think much about it, so I went up to greet Wang Zhi and praised Wen Yan's son for not seeing him grow into a handsome young man after several years. But I found that not only did my husband's face turn ugly, but his words also flickered, and he asked Wen Yan and her son to go home first, then pulled me back home. My intuition tells me that he must be hiding something from me. When I got home, I asked Wang Zhi why he was buying clothes for Wen Yan's child. I thought he was just helping Wen Yan take care of the children, but I didn't expect him to stutter and then furrow his brow, smoking one cigarette after another. Having been married to him for so many years, I understand that his expression suggests that things are not as simple as I imagined, and I feel the seriousness of the situation. He revealed the truth under my repeated pressure. It turns out that he lived with Wen Yan 28 years ago, and Wen Yan gave birth to her only child Xiao Kai 15 years ago, which is the child I saw in the mall.
I was confused at that time. But Wang Zhi told me that he and Wen Yan cut off their romantic relationship three years ago and are now just normal friends. However, Xiaokai is still his biological flesh and blood. He has a responsibility to take care of Xiao Kai. Wang Zhi said that he cherishes our relationship very much. Wang Zhi made me believe him that he would no longer associate with Wen Yan and hoped that I could forgive his past. I am half believing and half doubting his explanation. He actually deceived me for 28 years. Who can guarantee that what he is telling me now is the truth? Can I still trust him? Should I also accept Xiao Kai when I choose to forgive him? I don't know the answer. And my parents in law are getting older, and I don't want them to worry about it, nor do I want my children to be involved in this matter. I even thought about divorcing him at one point. But facing the current situation, I don't know where to go.
During the narration, Zhang Lingyu kept crying. I told her, 'You are in a lot of pain now, so don't hold back on yourself. You can cry out loud or curse this immoral man who betrayed and deceived you for more than 20 years, no matter how good he was to you in his betrayal!'! After Zhang Lingyu finished scolding and her mood improved slightly, I asked her, "Do you choose to retaliate against him or leave him?" She remained silent.
Additionally, by evaluating your marriage, there is hope for salvation. If you are willing to save it, make an effort for it. This kind of effort has two benefits. Firstly, it may restore the integrity and affection of one's family. Secondly, when the other party still insists on leaving, one can see the true face of the situation, so that one does not hesitate now and will not regret in the future. Taking a step back and learning tolerance and forgiveness may make it easier for a husband to turn back. If you keep blaming him endlessly at this point, it will increase his sense of guilt and make him more prone to 'not doing anything, not stopping'. On the contrary, tolerance, forgiveness, and endurance are more likely to make the spouse feel guilty, deeply sorry for you, and afraid to hurt you again. Although it may be difficult to achieve these ideals in times of unbearable hardship, it is best to work towards this direction for the sake of the overall situation. If you feel extremely depressed emotionally, doing more emotional counseling will quickly clear your mind. Believe it, this kind of thing not only brings crisis to your marriage, but it may also bring you vitality.
Zhang Lingyu accepted my suggestion and entrusted me to handle this triangular relationship. After more than a month of communication, Wang Zhi and Wen Yan voluntarily signed the "Termination of Non marital Sexual Relationship Agreement", and Zhang Lingyu and Wang Zhi also signed the "Marriage Agreement". Their lives gradually returned to calmness. Sichuan Faneng Law Firm is dedicated to serving you.