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The 7 Major Troubles of Post-80s Remarried Women
Time:2025-08-28 Views:850
Where should I start my story? Let me briefly talk about the changes in my marital history.
My ex-husband left me because of leukemia.
After four years of being single, I met A and soon got our marriage certificate. Both A and I are in our second marriage.
Like all extramarital affairs, the only difference was that the woman had been in a relationship with him for a long time, long before I did. This is also one of the reasons why I don't understand. Why did A marry me?
It was not until I actually lived my life that I realized he didn't want a wife but a free nanny. In that way, he could act recklessly outside without any worries. I became a real servant, not afraid of being laughed at. Our marital life was very limited. This kind of life lasted for more than a year, and eventually we went through the divorce procedures. In fact, this marriage was fundamentally a mistake, and I haven't been liberated from it ever since.
I returned to the little nest where I lived with my daughter, cast aside all my pain and tears, and began a brand new life. But A showed up again. He was repenting and crying. Maybe it was because his daughter truly needed a "father", or maybe it was because I didn't want my mother to be sad and unable to hold her head up high at work, or perhaps I believed in his so-called "sincerity". Anyway, I'm back by A's side. But what I need to clarify is that A and I haven't gone through the remarriage procedures.
Although he has learned well and there is no "betrayal" to talk about, I still can't be happy. Perhaps those past pains can never be made up for, and I can no longer retrieve all the lost beauty. In the months since I came back, I haven't laughed at all. Only when I saw my daughter playing with him could I feel much relieved and not regret it. I'm always depressed and tend to lose my temper over trivial matters. He always says, "I've changed. I'm not as good as before."
First, before our divorce, he didn't give me money for household expenses. He used my own salary for everything. After I come back this time, he will give me two or three thousand yuan every month for household expenses, but it's all in several installments. When I run out of money, I just ask for it. I really don't like this feeling. Also, he only does household chores and never gives me extra money to buy clothes or cosmetics. Is he too stingy?
Second, when he confessed, he said he couldn't live without me and looked at our wedding photos every day, but now the wedding photos have vanished without a trace.
Third, he promised to let me take over the company so that I wouldn't feel like an outsider. I said that as long as I could find any job at the company, that would be fine. But I've been there many times and he always ignores my presence because I know nothing and have to start learning from scratch. However, he doesn't teach me anything but just leaves me out in the sun. I think he is on guard against me.
Fourth, I mentioned the matter of remarriage, but he is not willing to go and get a remarriage certificate. Then what am I? They keep saying they love me, but in the end, they still treat me like air.
Five, to be honest, I've always wanted a diamond ring. He also promised me that he would buy it. At first, he said he had no money because he needed to start production. He said he would buy it at the end of the year when settling the bill. By then, with several hundred thousand in the account, he could still afford a ring worth ten thousand. The New Year has passed, and he also accompanied me to the gold store to have a look, but he just wouldn't pay. They said they were waiting for client xx to send the money, but when the money arrived, they said they would use it as working capital for next year. I've also figured it out. He never thought of buying it at all because I'm still an outsider and still in the same status as before.
Six, although he can't live without me and his wife is so important, we can't exchange many words throughout the day. Every time I was angry, he would always promise me something when he tried to coax me, but by the next day, everything had gone to hell.
Seven, and most importantly, I'm not happy at all. For several months, he didn't talk to me. This way back was my own choice. When I called my mother, friends or relatives, I always told them only the good news and never the bad. I'm so tired, but no one helps me or gives me some advice. I really don't know how I can still live.
Perhaps I really shouldn't have turned back, but I have no choice but to do so. I can't stand the cold stares others give to single mothers, and I can't stand the way my mother can't hold her head up high at work and is being whispered to by everyone. Also, my daughter really needs A father. She is much more cheerful than before, and A dotes on her very much. Facing all these, I can only bury my emotions and walk on with A, but I really have no confidence.
Teacher Mu Zi Li, could you tell me how I should move forward?
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