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A middle-aged woman remarries, how can it be described in a difficult word
Time:2025-09-01 Views:1225
She has been divorced for many years and has never remarried for the sake of her child. By the time her child reaches adulthood and finds a home, she is almost 50 years old and feels lonely. She wants to find another man to accompany her until old age, but... difficult, difficult, difficult. Ashi (pseudonym) told me a series of long short plays that happened on her way to find love, which made people sigh deeply.
Ashi doesn't look like a 48 year old woman at all. She's wearing a white suit with polka dot prints and sunglasses, petite and elegant, yet fashionable.
Act 1: Divorce
In 2000, at the age of 39, I made a surprising decision to divorce my husband whom I had lived with for 18 years. My marriage with my ex husband has always been unremarkable. Before the age of 35, we occasionally argued, which showed that there was still hope for our marriage. Both parties had expectations for reconciliation. After the age of 35, we basically stopped arguing, and my heart was calm. I took care of the household chores and children at home, worked diligently outside, and no longer hoped for men's love and warmth.
I didn't expect him to gradually fall in love with gambling. Although most of the time he just plays mahjong and the outcome is not significant, I really don't like it. Finally, he sank deep into the mud and suppressed the wages of more than ten workers to gamble, losing tens of thousands of yuan quickly. A man in his forties actually did such a thing, and my heart is hopeless.
I said to my daughter, 'I want to ask your father, is he really happy all these years?'
My 14-year-old daughter said, "You and my dad are so happy!" "What do you think if I divorce your dad?" "Instead of the two of you being unhappy together, it's better to leave early
After listening to my daughter's words, I feel very uncomfortable. If the relationship between parents is not good, the child will mature prematurely. However, knowing my daughter's attitude, I dare to make up my mind to divorce. I believe that after getting divorced, I can live better than before.
After the divorce, I didn't look for someone again, not because I didn't want to, but because I was afraid. Perhaps due to overthinking, my daughter is in her teenage years and is both cute and beautiful. She has also heard news about her mother's remarriage and her stepfather harassing her stepdaughter. I don't want my daughter to suffer any possible harm.
For 7 years, I lived alone with my daughter. My daughter is growing up day by day, becoming exceptionally beautiful and finding a loving boyfriend. In 2007, my daughter decided to go out of town with her boyfriend for development. I saw that my son-in-law was very reliable and supported the decision of the two young people. As soon as my daughter left, there was an empty house with a light at the entrance and a lock at the exit. In the quiet of the night, the tide of loneliness surges in.
Act 2: Marriage Recruitment
So, I made another bold decision: to get married. After a brief marriage advertisement was published in the newspaper, it immediately caught the attention of many people. Among the applicants were doctors, teachers, workers, and businessmen, with two phone numbers that left the deepest impression on me. One reason is that his attitude is really arrogant. As soon as he speaks, he introduces himself to having three houses and how big his business is, as if calling me is a great gift to me. I couldn't stand people who talk big and crossed them off the list. The second phone call that left a deep impression on me was from Qiu Bai (pseudonym), with a gentle and sincere voice. He said, "We are not young anymore, and time is running out. If we can be together, I hope we can spend 30 years together." This sentence touched me. Qiu Bai is 15 years older than me and is a teacher. The meeting place was chosen by him, at a well-known restaurant where the environment and dishes are very good, but it is economical.
Every time we meet in the future, he always makes plans to stay at this restaurant. Sometimes, I think to myself: this person is a bit dull and doesn't understand the atmosphere at all. But over time, I gradually realized his goodness. He is very considerate and knows that I have a bad stomach. His family ordered two bottles of milk, and every time I went to his house, he would keep one bottle for me. He even boiled it with hot water and handed it to me. On my third visit to his house, he gave me a key and tied it with a red thread, saying, 'Ashi, you will be the mistress of this house in the future.' I said, 'I really want this key, but I won't take it casually. After all, we haven't known each other for long and need to know more.' Seeing me say this, he didn't insist anymore. But his sincerity took our relationship one step further.
Act Three: The Invisible Web
The first time Qiu Bai told me that his younger brother had heart disease and had been hospitalized, I suggested that we go see him together, but Qiu Bai disagreed. He explained, 'My younger brother is a patient, and the focus of our family must be on him. I didn't let you go because I was afraid my family would ignore you.' At first, I thought he had a point and considered everything thoroughly. But later on, the more our relationship developed, the more I felt that it wasn't like that anymore. Sometimes, when I need him by my side, he always says that his younger brother is trying to save him again, how is it going. Qiu Bai and his sister-in-law's family are very close, and the two families live together. He has never mentioned introducing me to his sister-in-law.
Even stranger, once I found three neatly arranged strands of hair on Qiu Bai's pillow. I remained silent and quickly made a judgment in my heart: Qiu Bai should not have any other women. So whose hair would it be? My intuition tells me that someone deliberately placed it here to sow discord between me and Qiu Bai. I suddenly recalled the first time I came to Qiu Bai's house. Although it was a three bedroom, one living room house, the furniture was covered in dust, indicating a lack of maintenance and no feminine aura. But after dating him for a while, his house became clean. It must not have been cleaned by Qiu Bai. Usually, he can even be careless. It's not him, then it must only be his sister-in-law's family that he often mentions, or her children.
Speaking of which, you may say that I am suspicious, but being in it, I can deeply understand the mystery behind it. Until the end of our relationship, Qiu Baiyue and I felt that both of us wanted to get closer, but there was always an invisible web between us. Through each other, we moved forward, but this invisible web made us take a step back.
Act Four: Happiness Before the End
At the end of 2007, my 46th birthday was the most unforgettable day for me. That day, my daughter and son-in-law came back from out of town. Qiu Bai bought a birthday cake, roses, and a celebratory song disc, which greatly surprised me. I find it funny when I think of him, a man in his 60s, walking down the street holding a bouquet of roses. While laughing, I am also deeply moved. I remember after dinner that day, we were all watching TV in the living room. Our daughter and son-in-law were sitting on a double sofa, while Qiu Bai was sitting on a single sofa. I leaned back in his chair, watching the game on TV and the two men commenting on it one after another. This scene seems to have frozen in my mind, that kind of happiness seeps into my whole body, and it still lingers until now.
I long to seize this happiness, but in the end, I can't help it. We had previously mentioned getting married on National Day, but later Qiu Bai was busy and mentioned getting married on Christmas. But at his place, I don't see any signs of celebrating. He said that in the future, there would be a room at home for my daughter to stay in when she returns to her parents' home, and that room would need some furniture added. However, when he finally bought the furniture, he didn't discuss it with me and went to buy it with his sister-in-law. Moreover, it doesn't seem that it was prepared for marriage. Last Valentine's Day, I was waiting for him at the agreed place, but he was late. After dinner, he said he wanted to go to the hospital to see his younger brother. I said, "Coincidentally, my unit has distributed fish. Don't you like to eat pickled fish? I'll go with you to see your brother, and then you can go with me to the unit to take those fish back." But he insisted on going to the hospital to see his brother, and I went to the unit to get the fish. I am very angry, after all, it is a special holiday, why make it so unhappy? Besides, he and I have reached the point of discussing marriage, why can't I go see his brother? And my appearance and speech, he also has a lot of face when he takes them out. The next day, Qiu Bai called me and said, 'Ashi, I love you.' My worries melted away in front of his words. [page]
But the situation remained the same afterwards. For two months, he didn't meet me and said he was sick and receiving an injection. I said I would go see him, but he didn't let me go. The doubts in my heart are getting heavier and heavier. I want to communicate with him about what went wrong with us, but he always doesn't say anything and uses his brother's illness or busy work as an excuse to evade. Last year's Women's Day, when we agreed to meet, he was late again, using the excuse of going to the hospital to see his younger brother. I feel like I've become unfamiliar with him. A few days later, I broke up with him, but he didn't try to hold me back and said he respected my decision. Perhaps he had been waiting for me to say this.
This relationship left me exhausted, but as I listened to many stories of friends remarrying, I gradually understood that for middle-aged people of our age who remarry, the biggest challenge is financial issues. Perhaps Qiu Bai's family and friends do not want me to enter his life, which could affect their already solid relationships and subtle interests. If that's really the case, he could have told me and we could have found a solution. It's useless to say anything now, there's nothing we can start over from scratch. I just want to look forward now, I still long for a new relationship and find a kindred spirit to accompany me until old age. Sichuan Faneng Law Firm is dedicated to serving you.