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The remarriage experience of a sixty year old man
Time:2025-08-28 Views:566
To be honest, in the first few years after my spouse passed away, my life was quite fulfilling. I exercised in the morning, took care of my grandson during the day, and listened to Huangmei opera at night. The day was busy and I didn't have time to feel empty. Someone once advised me to find a spouse, but I refused outright: such days are good, isn't having a spouse the same?
I had planned to live like this, but a few years have passed and things have changed. After my grandson started elementary school, I was able to complete the task of taking care of him. Although the children are quite filial, they cannot spend all day with me, this old lady, due to busy work. All day long, I am the only one guarding a hundred square meter house, either playing Huangmei opera on the sound system or flipping through newspapers. I feel empty and depressed, thinking of my child's father whenever I have nothing to say. The children saw that I was too lonely alone and insisted on finding a spouse for me. I thought they were just talking, but two months later, they actually found one. The other party is a retired attending physician. When I saw that my children were serious, I sounded the drums of withdrawal: they are already 60 years old, what kind of marriage can they get into! When I expressed my thoughts, I was criticized by the children. They told me about the various benefits of remarriage for elderly people, and my younger daughter sarcastically and harshly called me "old-fashioned feudal" and unable to enjoy life. Several old colleagues also advised me not to mistreat myself too much, after all, my children have already grown up and have their own careers. They cannot just revolve around you, this old lady.
Since everyone has talked about this, I will no longer oppose it. After half a year of getting along with him, I think he is doing well. The most important thing is to do body patching, which is very similar to my deceased spouse. Therefore, when he proposed to register for marriage, I readily agreed. Although we are both in a second marriage and a twilight romance, the wedding was arranged quite lively, and the children from both families were very open-minded and devoted. Some old colleagues, relatives, and friends also came. After seeing off the guests and tidying up the room, it was almost midnight. I really can't resist aging. After a whole day of tinkering, I've had my old problem of lumbar muscle strain again. As for him, he is truly a doctor. He pinched my waist a few times, and it really loosened a lot. Before, children also pounded my back and pinched my waist, but his technique was not as professional as his. My colleague is still right. Companionship, companionship in old age. It seems that the elderly understand the elderly, which cannot be replaced by children.
But what happened next was hard for me to accept. When we turned off the lights to rest, he suddenly felt like a young man, insisting on sleeping with me. Looking at his posture, I couldn't help but feel both angry and amused, and my previous good impression of him was completely erased. What I found myself is a spouse. As I get older, two elderly people live with each other, and there is someone who can talk and relieve boredom, so I am not too lonely. Why does he have to think in a crooked way? I can't tell, a person who appears quite honest on the surface but also has some thoughts in their heart. Looking back now, my idea was completely based on my own misunderstanding. But at that time, I really didn't realize that there was anything inappropriate about my actions, and my heart was filled with disgust and resentment. So I pushed away his hands, turned around and gave him a back, and threw down a hard sentence: Don't be silly, don't look at how old you are, go to sleep now! That night, I slept soundly and he didn't disturb me anymore.
Later on, he tried several times and I rejected each one. After trying a few times, he no longer forced himself, but it was clear that he had some ideas in his heart because every night like this, he would toss and turn and couldn't sleep. We were deadlocked like this for four or five months without realizing it. It is still him who ultimately solves the problem. That day, he said he would stay at his old colleague's house for a few days. Before leaving, he placed a few magazines next to my pillow. I don't know where he found these magazines, but they seem to be specifically written for me: about the precautions for remarriage of elderly people, as well as the married life of elderly people. After reading the article, I know that the elderly are old and their functions, especially their sexual ability, are not as good as before, but there are still some basic needs. As long as two people communicate and cooperate with each other, their life will not be harmful, but will promote each other's feelings and delay the aging of their bodies... I have read it several times and thought carefully that my behavior is really excessive. As for husband and wife, sex and love are combined. Age should not be an excuse. Since we live together, people treat me sincerely, and money is left to me, I the final say, and trust me completely. He is not like those who are looking for a spouse again. They always guess and guard against each other, and then look at themselves. Not only is he not satisfied, but he also holds onto old ideas, which is really too feudal.
A few days later, he came back. It turned out that all of this was arranged by him. He knew that I was stubborn and would definitely not be able to turn the corner in person, so he deliberately left for a few days to let me figure it out on my own. His move really worked, and from then on, my mental knots were untied. At the same time, I also understand a truth: for remarried elderly people, whether their personalities and temperaments are compatible is important, but whether their sexual interests are consistent is also quite important. Some people often joke about old people and old women saying 'people are old but hearts are not old', which may be a compliment but a criticism. But I want to say that 'people are old but hearts are not old' is good, at least it proves that you are healthy and energetic. Now everyone says that I am getting younger and younger as I live, isn't this the most powerful proof? Sichuan Faneng Law Firm is dedicated to serving you.