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Online marriage： a precursor to infidelity
Time:2025-08-28 Views:746
Online marriage students are actually the main force
Due to her husband's long-term absence, her wife gradually became obsessed with the internet and quickly got married online. After a Platonic style online marriage was unexpectedly discovered by a husband, he was greatly surprised and angry. The husband filed a lawsuit with the court, seeking divorce and demanding compensation for his wife's mental state. However, a few days ago, the husband suddenly withdrew the lawsuit. The reporter learned that the wife has voluntarily terminated her online marriage in order to win her husband's heart. With the increasing popularity of the internet today, what are the reasons that make many people fall in love with it? What are the benefits and drawbacks of online marriage to our lives? What are the legal consequences to bear? The reporter investigated some parties and experts to understand the current situation of online marriage.
■ Case Study
Female teacher gets married online and causes' divorce '
Feifei (pseudonym) is a teacher in Shanghai who is just over 30 years old. Her husband, Xiaocheng (pseudonym), is a private enterprise owner in Shanghai and has been on business trips for many years. Feifei (pseudonym) often goes online in his spare time. In March last year, he accidentally discovered a website that allows for the establishment of a "virtual marriage". Login users only need to fill in relevant information to form an "online couple" with another login user. Feifei (pseudonym) found it very interesting and quickly found her "husband" through the internet, who called her "drunk again and again". From then on, Feifei (pseudonym) often went to chat rooms in loneliness, fell in love with her "husband", and after a few days of "getting along", Feifei (pseudonym) realized that she was young and seemed to have regained the feeling of love.
In order to please his "wife", he even applied for a "home" on the website after getting drunk. As soon as Feifei (pseudonym) finished work, he couldn't wait to come to "home" and chat and joke with "drunk and drunk again". Soon, Feifei (pseudonym) suddenly had the idea of meeting her virtual husband, so she bought a camera and had a video chat with "drunk and drunk again". At this moment, Feifei (pseudonym) realized that "drunk and drunk again" looked very steady and scholarly. Drunk and drunk again, "he was also" quite satisfied "with Fei Fei's (pseudonym) appearance and told her that he was an architect. Feifei (pseudonym) fell into an online romance from then on, and was also intoxicated and intoxicated by this virtual relationship.
Last June, Feifei's (pseudonym) husband returned to Ning from a business trip in another city. Feifei (pseudonym) originally thought that her husband would stay for a few days and leave as usual, but little did he know that Xiaocheng (pseudonym) had a business deal and the client was in Shanghai, so he could stay at home for a few more days to accompany Feifei (pseudonym). At first, because her husband was at home, Feifei (pseudonym) had no chance to go online. A few days later, Feifei (pseudonym) couldn't sit still anymore and spent several nights busy surfing the internet, but only chatting with "drunk and drunk" on MSN. Xiaocheng (pseudonym) originally wanted to spend time with his wife, but found that she would sit in front of the computer until late at night after dinner every day, and even secretly laugh alone. Although Fei Fei (pseudonym) has always claimed that he is rushing for a paper to evaluate his professional title, ultimately "paper cannot cover fire".
One day at the end of June, Xiaocheng (pseudonym) accidentally saw that his wife logged in to a marriage website every day. He opened its chat history and was immediately stunned when he saw it. The record is full of affectionate words between the wife and 'drunk and drunk'. Xiaocheng (pseudonym) was furious and immediately found his wife to explain. As a result, Feifei (pseudonym) simply admitted that she had already "married" someone online, and at the same time, Feifei (pseudonym) also stated that her online "marriage" was just a boring joke and not considered "infidelity to her husband". Seeing his wife "betray" him and still not caring, Xiaocheng (pseudonym) became hysterical and went viral. He always believed that although Fei Fei (pseudonym) had not met his virtual husband and did not even know his name, from his chat records, his wife had fallen in love with him "drunk and drunk again".
After half a year of consideration, Xiaocheng (pseudonym) filed for divorce, but Feifei (pseudonym) firmly disagreed, believing that she had not done anything to betray her husband. "Online marriage is just for fun when bored, and there are many people playing, why should you care?" Due to the inability of both parties to reach an agreement on divorce, Xiaocheng (pseudonym), who is psychologically imbalanced, entrusted his lawyer to submit a lawsuit to the court, demanding that the two be divorced and his wife compensate tens of thousands of yuan for mental damages. But during the court filing period, Xiao Cheng (pseudonym), who still deeply loved his wife, saw her decisively "divorce" online, cutting off any form of relationship with "getting drunk and drunk again", and wavered in the idea of divorce. Recently, Xiaocheng (pseudonym), who has reconciled with his wife, has filed a lawsuit with the court to withdraw the case.
■ Viewpoint
Does not constitute bigamy
But it belongs to emotional betrayal
The reporter asked some lawyers about online marriage, and Lawyer Xu from Jiangsu believes that married people "get married" online. From a legal perspective, if both parties do not go to the marriage registration authority to complete the marriage registration procedures in accordance with the law, it cannot constitute a true marital relationship. Meanwhile, as most netizens do not appear online with their real identities or live together, it does not constitute the crime of bigamy.
Most legal experts also suggest that for married individuals, online marriage games have already crossed the bottom line of social morality and violated the law. According to the explicit provisions of China's Marriage Law, spouses have a legal obligation to be faithful and respect each other. If one party engages in online romantic activities with a virtual husband or wife, leading a "married life," this behavior is clearly inconsistent with the fidelity and civility advocated by the Marriage Law. Although the parties involved in online marriage may have never met in person, they have actually betrayed their spouse emotionally and should be deemed at fault and liable for compensation.
However, it is regrettable that according to the relevant provisions of Chinese law, the establishment of civil marriages follows the principle of registration, and online marriages clearly do not meet this legal requirement. In addition, when online couples log in and register, they usually do not disclose their real information, and even do not know each other's real names. Therefore, it is impossible for cohabitation to occur online, let alone domestic violence, abuse, or abandonment of family members. Therefore, once the real marriage relationship breaks down due to online marriage and divorce occurs, it is almost impossible for the spouse of one party who got married online to pursue the other party's responsibility through litigation at this stage. So generally speaking, as long as both parties are willing to marry online, it doesn't matter how many times they get married, which highlights the awkward gap in the interpretation of relevant laws in China.
■ Analysis
Expert: 'Online marriage' is a prelude to infidelity
There are more and more online marriages, and the objective reason is that computers, like television, are becoming more and more popular, entering thousands of households. The Internet is becoming more and more developed, providing convenient conditions for online marriages. But psychologically, it is different for both students and adults.
1、 For fun and excitement. During a recent interview at an internet cafe, a survey was conducted on some unmarried online marriage couples. Among them, 40% of young people believed that it was because real life was too dull and boring, 30% said that life pressure was high and they wanted to find a place to relax online, and 30% thought that virtual marriage was more fashionable and did not require much responsibility.
Finding a few lovers online is really fun! "A college student named Xiao Wang, who is currently immersed in an online marriage, told reporters at an internet cafe near Pai Lou Lane that he recently found an online" wife "under the encouragement of other classmates. She is gentle and considerate, not to mention cleaning, washing clothes, and cooking. The couple's" husband and wife life "is very ideal and relaxed.
Some high school students who are surfing the internet in internet cafes told reporters that they find virtual marriage online very fresh and exciting. Out of rebellious psychology or the intention of imitating adults, they unconsciously fell in love with online marriage. A third year junior high school boy told reporters that many of his classmates around him have experienced online marriage. "It's not a big deal to chat and talk to a confidante online," he said. Although he has been married for nearly two years, he has not really met his online wife in person.
2、 Reduce life pressure. Lingling, 25, is an employee of a foreign-funded enterprise. Every day after work, the first thing she does when she returns home is to turn on her computer and go to her online "home" to greet her online husband. Lingling told reporters that she is usually under a lot of work pressure. Through online marriage, she can have someone to comfort her online after work every day, or to guide her when she encounters unpleasant things, which can relieve a lot of pressure. When asked if she would take online marriage seriously, Lingling said she wouldn't. She said that she also wants to find someone in real life to have a good relationship and marry off, but the current workload is too heavy, and even if she has time, she doesn't have the energy to date, so she will choose an online marriage. However, if she has to choose, she will definitely choose a real, real marriage.
3、 Tired of real marriage. A professor from the Provincial Academy of Social Sciences believes that for many adults, it's not just about relieving stress, but also about getting tired of real-life marriage. Men and women in marriage are prone to aesthetic fatigue. In real life, they want to find another marriage but cannot achieve 100% satisfaction, so they rely on the internet for hope. Women are greatly influenced by traditional beliefs and existing lifestyles, and tend to suppress themselves, spending more energy and time on family and educating children. Men have more energy focused on social life and are more willing to seek online marriage. Among these people, some are purely seeking novelty to keep their lives from being too dull, while others are looking for a third party. Online marriage is just a prelude to infidelity.
■ Investigation
Millions of people get married online
Nowadays, "online marriage" is increasingly appearing in people's sight, and many websites in China have also set up related online marriage communities.
The reporter chose one of the more famous ones, and when they opened the website, dozens of personal photos came into view. Below were the personal information and contact details of the person in the photo, such as their username, MSN, QQ number, etc. At first glance, it looked like a matchmaking website. But upon closer inspection, the website already has hundreds of thousands of registered users and over 10000 "cohabitation nests", and the first place on the so-called "cohabitation ranking list" on the website homepage has also reached more than 300 days. The website forum is also a lively scene, with some directly issuing "love declarations" to find people to "get married", while others say they are facing difficulties in their lives and want to find someone to guide and help them. It is reported that there are millions of internet users in China who engage in online marriage, ranging from teenagers to middle-aged people in their forties, with people of all ages and professions. In the vast team of online marriages, college and high school students are the "main force", followed by young netizens aged 20-35, who tirelessly join the ranks of online marriages for their own reasons.
■ Controversy
Three party PK
Is Online Marriage Right or Wrong
Online marriage may conflict with traditional moral values, and whether it brings benefits or drawbacks has become a focus of debate between supporters and opponents.
Supporters: Online marriage is not wrong. Supporters believe that people who are involved in online marriages will not have any problems as long as they maintain a balance. Some netizens believe that online marriage is just a way for young people in the internet age to express their emotions, a game where they just want to make a cake and not satisfy their hunger, so there is no need to be too nervous. Some people also believe that getting married in real life is tiring and not free, while getting married online is easy and a good remedy for emptiness and loneliness. Why not do it. Those who hold these views are mostly able to distinguish between virtual and real life on the internet.
Opponents: Online marriage does more harm than good. They believe that online marriage will bring unexpected consequences. Mr. Zhang said that his son, who was in high school, used to have good academic performance and never had to worry about it. However, since his son became obsessed with online marriage, he no longer focused on his studies and his grades plummeted. But in the interview, most parents did not believe that their children would go online to get married, and they were quite angry about such websites. They also stated that if they found out who "irresponsibly" set up such a ridiculous website, they would be held accountable through legal means.
The relevant person in charge of the Provincial Women's Federation also believes that if online marriage exceeds the scope allowed by morality, it will become a harm. Especially for people with families, online marriage itself is an irresponsible behavior. At the beginning, the parties involved in establishing an online marriage may not take it seriously. But in reality, this is another manifestation of marital crisis, perhaps a precursor to marital upheaval. Some even assert that online marriage is a "killer" of traditional marriage and a "disruptor" that harms families, and should be stopped.
Neutral: Online marriage should be controlled. In addition to the above two viewpoints, some people believe that online marriage cigarettes are understandable, but being deeply involved in online marriage is harmful and therefore needs to be controlled. Mr. Liu, who has been married online for over a year, said that online marriage has both positive and negative aspects. While his mood is relaxed, he wastes too much time and becomes indifferent to real life. Students are curious about it and find it fun, while office workers use it to relieve work pressure. Regardless of the purpose, it can be tolerated, but one must not become addicted. Therefore, it is necessary to restrain and control online marriage. They believe that online marriage can be consciously constrained by the power of morality, and when the power of morality is broken, it should be regulated and controlled by law.
■ Countermeasures
Beyond moral constraints
Legislation is crucial
The internet is becoming more and more developed, and communication between people is becoming more and more convenient. It can be considered as truly realizing the concept of "having close friends on the internet and being as close as neighbors at the end of the world". So, what is the future development trend of this love hate online marriage?
According to a sociologist, due to the rapid development of the internet, although some people strongly oppose online marriage, it is difficult to stop its "growth". The number of people may continue to increase, whether they are middle school students, college students, or adults. More and more people may indulge in it, just like online games, although there are many people who criticize it, it cannot be stopped. Moreover, in the future world, as the internet enters every part of people's lives, it is possible that our lives will be a combination of virtual and reality. The interaction between people and computers may become similar to that between people, and online marriage will also become similar to real marriage. Virtual and reality make it difficult for many people to distinguish.
Therefore, how to promote the healthy development of online marriage is still a difficult problem. In addition to moral propaganda, it is important to strengthen legislation and make certain regulations on online marriage. Because online marriage has truly affected our lives, since it is difficult to eliminate, there should not be any legal explanation for its illusory nature. In addition, the social problems caused also need to be discussed together by everyone.
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