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Are 80s couples getting divorced and letting go or getting remarried？
Time:2025-08-28 Views:1026
First of all, let me give you a brief introduction. My ex-wife and I were both born in 1980 and are only children. We started dating in high school and were separated in between. Later, we got together again. Mutual family background is also acceptable, with no family burden, both having decent jobs and houses, and basically no need to worry about money!
She is a beautiful, cheerful, clingy, coquettish, and sweet mouthed girl. As for me, I'm just an ordinary man with a bit of humor. Even if I'm not handsome or ugly, I know how to smoke and drink a little alcohol.
In my eyes, although our conditions were not the best, they were still much better than many others. In theory, I think we should be very happy, but we are divorced! Let's share our story below and give some insights to our peers.
1、 Abortion:
Let's talk about a little episode first.
We got married at the age of 25. My parents gave me a house, and the decoration and drinks were all paid for by both parents.
Just one or two months before getting married, she got pregnant but insisted on having it aborted, not wanting others to say it was a marriage by marriage. My parents have also advised her, but she still insists and doesn't want her parents to know. Later, I still accompanied her to abort this child.
2、 Kitchen Crisis:
Two months later, we smoothly entered the hall of marriage. Before getting married, we made an agreement that since I finished work early, I would buy groceries and cook for the dinner at night, while she would be responsible for washing dishes. The household hygiene would be done by whoever had free time. At that time, we were very good. We had to keep texting and calling every day at work, as if we had just started dating. I often turn down social events to accompany her, but she doesn't like me drinking. I basically don't drink at all. But I also tried getting drunk at the company's annual meeting, so angry that she didn't talk to me for two days.
Three months have passed like this. One day, she told me that she was pregnant! We are very happy with both of our parents, and whenever my mother has free time, she cooks some supplements for her. However, due to the abortion before getting married, the child was still pregnant at less than 3 months... everyone was very sad.
After discharge, the doctor asked her to rest at home for two weeks. My mother asked her to stay at my parents' house for the convenience of taking care of her. But she thought my family had a dog, so she refused to pick up my mom and said she could stay at home alone.
I have to go to work, and I know she doesn't know how to cook or take care of herself, so I asked my mom to work harder to take care of her. So for these two weeks, my mother came to our house every day with pre cooked tonics, bought groceries, cooked lunch, set it up, and then woke her up to eat. After she finished eating, she went to bed to continue resting, and then washed the dishes.
One day, I came home 2 hours early. As soon as I opened the door, I saw my mother resting on the sofa in the lobby, squinting her eyes. She was playing loud music on the computer in the study, while I was sleeping in the bedroom. I immediately blamed her at that time.
The next day was the weekend. In the morning, she went to wash the dishes and suddenly found that the sieve in the kitchen sink was broken. She complained that it was my mother who broke it. I told her that if it's broken, it's broken. I'll go out and buy a new one later. But she started to lose her temper and kept nagging endlessly. I said, my mom is also taking care of you. She was kind enough to say to me, 'I didn't ask your mom to take care of me. I said I'm fine on my own.' This stimulated my nerves, and I immediately retorted, 'That's right, my mom deliberately came to damage our things. What's wrong? The decoration, furniture, and appliances in this house were all paid for by my mom, and she would damage them whenever she liked.' At that time, I was very angry and slapped her in the face, and punched the wardrobe door and broke it... '
After this incident, although we reconciled, there were still cracks.
3、 Drinking alcohol:
One year later, she became pregnant again. We were all very careful this time, taking imperial care of her from the first month onwards. She also took leave from her workplace. During that time, there were people around her almost 24 hours a day to take care of her.
Three months have passed, and we all breathed a sigh of relief. When she was over 4 months pregnant, one day, I made an appointment with a good friend to have dinner tonight. As the restaurant was only 5 minutes away from my house, she also went with me. During the meal, I had some beer with my friends. I usually don't smoke in front of her, but that night my classmate did. Plus, the restaurant had poor ventilation, so I let her go home first.
When she left, there wasn't much, but when I got back after 10 o'clock, I walked downstairs and found her standing alone on the roadside, packing her luggage... I went over and asked what was going on? She said I was drinking and smoking tonight, and even asked her to go home alone and ignore her, wanting to go back to her parents' home.
I explained that I only drink alcohol once or twice a year, and only this little beer. So I picked up her luggage and headed home, but she held me back and insisted on going back to her parents' home. What a coincidence! At this moment, a police car was patrolling and might have seen us pulling. It stopped and asked us what happened. She actually said, 'Police, I don't know him, he hit me, you guys drive him away.'.
When I heard this, I told the police, 'Well, I don't know her. Watch out, I'm really hitting her now.' So I jokingly slapped her. I dare say that if she had a mosquito on her face at that time, even a slap wouldn't have killed that mosquito! The police saw that we were a couple, but it didn't matter. Copy our ID cards and leave. I went home alone, while she went to my parents' house.
But she actually told my mom how I was drinking, how I was hitting her, how I was making a scene, and the police were coming... My mom immediately called me and scolded me until I was bloody. But my mom also told her not to tell her family.
A week later, I caught a cold because I was afraid of infecting her and BB, so I asked her to stay at her parents' house for a few days. Suddenly one afternoon, my mom called me and asked if I had called her again? When my in laws called and said that I had hit her, she ran back to her parents' home... I was confused at that time. After she returned home, she told her parents about my slap that couldn't even kill mosquitoes last week, and even said it wasn't the first time I had hit her
4、 Divorce:
The next day, my mother-in-law called me out to have dinner with her. No matter how I explained it, she still sat on the side without saying a word, while my mother-in-law kept blaming me, saying that I was domestic violence. It's better to get a divorce and not have any children like this.
In the next few days, no matter what I say, explain or apologize for, she still won't speak. Persist in seeking divorce.
So we went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to prepare for divorce, and just as we were about to sign, she said she didn't want to leave. So we left the Civil Affairs Bureau again. But at night, she insisted on getting a divorce again
Two days later, accompanied by our mother-in-law, we went to the Civil Affairs Bureau again and officially signed the divorce. On the day of the divorce, she was admitted to a hospital that had already been arranged for induced abortion the next day. That night, she called me and said she missed me and was afraid of having surgery, so she asked me to accompany her. I said it's no problem, but I'm going to pick you up and get married again soon. She refused.
A week later, she called me again and said she missed me. I asked her why she was so fickle, and she said that after telling her mother about me hitting her, her mother insisted on our divorce and even said, 'If you go back, I'll jump off a building.'.
It has been six months since our divorce, and we are living a life where being married is not like being married, and having an affair is not like having an affair. I didn't even tell my colleagues or friends about my divorce from her. I hope to be together again one day. But this feeling was painful after all, and in the end, I decided to part ways with her. Sichuan Faneng Law Firm is dedicated to serving you.