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7 major troubles of remarried women born in the 1980s
Time:2025-08-28 Views:574
Where should I start my story? Let's briefly talk about the changes in my marriage history.
My ex husband left me because of leukemia.
After four years of single life, I met A and quickly obtained a marriage certificate. Both A and I are second marriages.
Like all extramarital affairs, the only difference is that the woman got along with him a long time ago and had a relationship before me. That's also one of the reasons I don't understand, why did A marry me?
It wasn't until I truly got by that I realized he wasn't looking for a wife, he was looking for a free nanny. So he could act recklessly outside without any worries, and I became a real mother, not afraid to laugh at our limited marital life. This kind of life lasted for more than a year, and eventually we went through the divorce procedures. In fact, this marriage was originally a mistake, and I have not been liberated from it.
I returned to the little nest where I relied on my daughter for survival, throwing away all my pain and tears, and starting a brand new life. But A appeared again, confessing and shedding tears. Perhaps it was because my daughter really needed a 'dad', or maybe it was because I didn't want my mother to be sad and unable to hold her head up at work, or maybe I believed in his so-called 'sincerity'. Anyway, I have returned to A's side. But I want to clarify that A and I have not completed the procedures for remarriage.
Although he has learned well and there is no such thing as' betrayal ', I still can't be happy. Perhaps those past pains cannot be compensated for, and I can never find back all the beauty I lost. In the months since I came back, I haven't laughed out loud. Only seeing scenes of my daughter playing with him can comfort me a lot and prevent me from regretting. I always feel depressed and get angry over trivial matters. He always says, 'I've changed, I'm not as good as I used to be.'.
1、 Before the divorce, he didn't give me money for household use, he used my own salary; After coming back this time, he will give two to three thousand yuan per month for household expenses, but it will be given in several installments. When I run out of money, I will ask for it. I really don't like this feeling. Also, he only does household chores and never gives me extra money to buy clothes or cosmetics. Is he too stingy?
2、 He said during his confession that he couldn't live without me and looked at our wedding photos every day, but now the photos are nowhere to be found.
3、 He promised to let me take over the company so that there wouldn't be any sense of outsiders. I said as long as I can find any job in the company, it would be great, but I have been there many times and he always ignores my existence because I don't understand anything and have to learn from scratch. But he doesn't teach me anything and just lets me sit on the sidelines. I think he's guarding against me.
4、 I mentioned the matter of remarriage, but he is unwilling to obtain the remarriage certificate, so what am I. They keep saying they love me, but in the end, they treat me like air.
5、 To be honest, I have always wanted a diamond ring, and he also promised me to buy it. At first, he said he didn't have enough money because he needed to invest in production. He said he would buy it at the end of the year, and with hundreds of thousands of dollars coming in, he could still afford a ring worth 10000 yuan. After the Chinese New Year, he also accompanied me to visit the gold shop, but he didn't pay. They said they were waiting for xx customers to make money, but when the money arrived, they said they wanted to use it as working capital for next year. I have also figured it out. He never thought about buying it at all because I am still an outsider and have the same identity as before.
6、 Although he can't live without me and his wife is important, we can't talk much at the end of the day. Every time I get angry, he always promises me something with all his might, but the next day it all goes to hell.
7、 The most important thing is that I am not happy at all. For several months, I haven't been able to talk to me. I chose this path of turning back on my own, always reporting good news over the phone with my mother, friends, and family. I am so tired, but no one has helped me or given me some advice. I really don't know how else I can live?
Maybe I really shouldn't turn back, but I have no choice but to turn back. I can't stand the cold eyes of others towards single mothers, and I can't stand my mother being whispered to by everyone when she can't lift her head at work. The unit is too small, and others will always make short remarks about it. Also, my daughter needs a father too much. She is much more outgoing than before, and A loves her a lot. Faced with various challenges, I can only bury my emotions and keep going with A, but I really don't have confidence.
Teacher Muzi Li, can you tell me how to proceed?
Should we give up or continue? I had packed my bags and wanted to escape, but he still chased after me relentlessly ... Sichuan Faneng Law Firm is dedicated to serving you.