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Why do people born in the 1980s hesitate about getting married
Time:2025-08-28 Views:1507
In theory, he is already quite old now. At this age before liberation, children were running all over the ground. I see many peers around me getting married and having children. But most of them are still hesitating. okay. The mention of marriage makes you convulse!
Why do we still cling to the tail of our youth without getting married? Let me think carefully.
I think, first of all, it's a matter of mindset.
In the past. Marriage is not even a matter at all. As soon as you reach your age, find someone around the same age to handle it. At that time, everyone was penniless. in a clean manner. No one cares about how much or how little love is. But now humans have evolved to take themselves more and more seriously. There is no one who is not pondering about their character, family background, appearance, job, education, future, and even hobbies. Repeated research. In depth exploration. Carefully compare. Tossed and turned... it seemed like a simple problem was becoming complicated. Expanding the problem between the two! The more you ponder, the more confused you become. This marriage can't be done!
Getting married. Two people live together. It was originally much simpler. Hard makes us even more verbose than manufacturing a space shuttle. Chasing the reasons behind it. I think the purpose of our marriage is not pure anymore. I always want to gain some additional value through marriage. For example, a house, a car, and a bright future. When you want to get something for a lifetime through a piece of paper. It's a bit difficult.
There is still an issue with mentality. It's the fear of marriage.
Our generation. I grew up in a honey pot. I have never experienced war or hunger. Being pampered by parents. I always feel like I'm still young. Why are we getting married? Getting married means having children. I am still a child myself. Why did the next generation emerge?
Young women nowadays are very narcissistic. I really can't bear to let go of my youth and take over the necessities of life like this. Boys of the same age are even more immature. When my son suddenly made him a father after getting used to it. I really can't adapt at once.
Parents earnestly say that it is for our lifelong happiness. When you hear the word 'lifelong'. I immediately thought of my aged and weathered appearance 50 years later. It seems like as soon as we get married, we run to the end with a swoosh. If this marriage really sets a 'lifetime'. What the hell are we going to live for in the future.
also. The indifference of modern people and the decline of love also make us hesitate and panic. The most direct consequence is that many people no longer believe in love. I don't believe in promises. I don't even believe in myself. I'm not even sure if I'll change my mind in the future. How to ask others?
Divorce, betrayal, infidelity, extramarital affairs, and illegitimate children are all around us. Can my marriage escape this disaster? Is it good inside this besieged city? Once in and out, it becomes second-hand. We need to be cautious.
Secondly, it is a human issue. This is also a key point.
The family who wants to marry does not want to marry. We don't want to marry those we want to marry. People are all despicable animals. What I didn't get may not be very good. But it's still unforgettable. To please and flatter others, placing them in the highest position of "love" in one's heart. Crying and shouting to marry someone. They may not necessarily appreciate it yet. But I turn a blind eye to the silent contributors around me. Holding you and loving you. I really consider myself an emperor. No matter how good the other party's conditions are, I still feel wronged. Always unwilling to 'marry low'. At the end of the day. It's unlucky for him to take a liking to you first.
There are still some people. There are neither people who want to marry nor people who want to marry. The whole love is not in the service area. A small corner forgotten by love. Hey... if you can withstand the pressure of being single. So. It's better to be deficient than excessive. Once such people become abusive. I can't even keep it.
Marriage, no matter how simple it is. It's also a matter between two people. I looked left and right at someone. Who are you dating? Don't mention blind dates to me yet. I started dealing with this 5 years ago. It's professional. To put it simply, blind dates are nitpicking. Go buy cabbage with colored glasses. Not everyone has turned green, right. Purple doesn't slip away in autumn.
Finally, the issue of money. This question. It's also big. Speaking of small, it's also small.
Poor and humble couples are always grieving. This statement definitely makes sense. money It is definitely the biggest obstacle faced by many poor and humble couples. Lang has feelings and concubines have intentions. The manpower is in place. The mentality is also constantly prepared like a young pioneer. The two love each other so much that they cannot be separated. I wish I could immediately build a small nest and have children. But where can I find this little nest? Simply put, it's a house. To put it simply, it's money. Without money, there is no house. Even if we rent, we still have to pay, right?
It is said that marriage is the tomb of love. You can't even enter the grave without a house! Then there will be no place to bury oneself in death! Women's so-called sense of security and belonging. A reliable shoulder and warm embrace during love. But as soon as a woman gets married, she immediately switches from romanticism to realism. The once warm and generous embrace is now less tangible than the concrete and steel. [page]
Previously in the countryside. With a tile roofed house, we can have a wedding. Later on, my parents' generation. As long as you get married, you will have a unit for welfare housing allocation. Now. Universities have popularized the prosperity of the people. We can no longer even achieve the goal of 'living and working in peace and contentment'.
I graduated from college in my twenties. Having a stable income from a fixed unit is considered good. No matter how good the unit is, it won't give away a free house. How can we get married without a house? If parents have some financial resources. I'll buy you a house and a car. That fortune teller is good. How many college students borrow money from various sources for their education. Do you still want to buy a house after graduation? Let's talk about paying off a 5-year or 6-year debt first.
Of course. There must also be those who started from scratch. Struggling to become successful. But when he loses his hand. How can you be sure if he will succeed? If you have such sharp eyes, just wait. By the way, watch more novels and TV dramas about men abandoning their wives after achieving success.
Except for the house. There are many places where money is needed for marriage. There are plenty of deposits, rings, wedding photos, and so on. Let's talk about rings. I don't know who invented it. Anyway, getting married is necessary! From proposal, engagement, to marriage. Which step is missing the ring? It can't be a regular ring yet. It must be the 'diamond ring' that symbolizes long-lasting love!
When proposing, your entire body should be made of copper, iron, plastic, even if it's woven from grass. The romantic sentimentality of women no longer matters. You can't fool her like this when we get married, can you? Can you bear to let the bride walk into the rented new house with you wearing an aluminum alloy ring?
But this big piece of rock is worth so much for some unknown reason. It can definitely make self reliant young people go bankrupt with just one stroke! So. The great longing for marriage was ruined by a few pieces of cement and stones.
Of course, there are also those who are open-minded and do not care about this set of things. When it comes to getting married every four years, I always avoid buying diamond rings, taking wedding photos, and hosting banquets. The whole new 'three no men'.
You save time. How many women also want to save trouble? Anyway, the vast majority of women are not capable. Wedding photos must be taken. We still need to take good photos. Shoot hard! I won't disband if we don't film it to the fullest!
Every family has its own difficult scriptures to recite. Marriage also varies from person to person. After all, it is a major event in life. Although the post-80s generation has limited experience. But we also know how to write the word 'responsibility'. I hope we cherish it more now. Cherish the days spent together. I won't regret it in the future!
The post-80s generation is the mainstream population in today's society or is about to become the mainstream population in society. The intention of writing this article is to draw social attention. The post-80s generation should keep up with the times. The ideas and concepts given to us by the outside world are also constantly changing. We face too many things. The burden on my body is also getting heavier and heavier. If this generation's life is not harmonious. Can society be harmonious? Sichuan Faneng Law Firm is dedicated to serving you.