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Why are people born in the 1980s hesitant about getting married
Time:2025-08-28 Views:719
Logically speaking, I'm not young anymore now. At this age before liberation, children would have run away everywhere. I see quite a few of my peers around me getting married and having children. But most are still hesitating. Um. The mere mention of marriage makes me twitch!
Why do we still stubbornly hold onto the tail of our youth and refuse to get married? Let me think it over carefully.
I think, first of all, it's a matter of mindset.
In the past. Getting married is not a big deal at all. When I reach a certain age, I'll just find someone similar and get it done. At that time, everyone was penniless. Straightforward and efficient. No one cares how much or how little love there is. But nowadays, humans have evolved to take themselves more and more seriously. No matter what kind of character, family background, appearance, job, education, future or even hobbies, there is nothing that cannot be overlooked. Study repeatedly. In-depth discussion. Make a careful comparison. Tossing and turning... It's obvious that a simple problem is being complicated. The problem between the two has been magnified! The more I thought about it, the more confused I became. This marriage won't work out!
Getting married? The two live together. What a simple matter it was originally. Forcing us to make it even more complicated than building a space shuttle. Trace the reason. I think it's because our purpose of getting married is not pure anymore. I always want to obtain some other added value through marriage. For example, houses, cars, and a better future. When you want to obtain something for a lifetime through a piece of paper. It's a bit difficult.
There's still a problem with my mindset. It's the fear of marriage.
Our generation. I can say I grew up in a honey pot. I have never experienced war or gone hungry. Spoiled by parents. I always feel that I'm still young. Why are you getting married? Getting married means having children. I'm still a child. How come the next generation has just come out?
Nowadays, young women are all very narcissistic. It's really hard to let go of youth and take over the daily necessities like firewood, rice, oil and salt. Boys of the same age are even less mature. Having been used to being a son, he suddenly made him a father. I really can't adapt all at once.
Parents earnestly and earnestly say that it is for our lifelong happiness. But as soon as the words "for life" were heard. I immediately thought of my own old and weathered appearance 50 years from now. It seems that once you get married, "a lifetime" comes to an end in a flash. If this marriage is truly a lifelong commitment. Then what's the point of us living in the future?
And. The indifference of modern people and the loss of love also make us hesitate and panic. The most direct consequence is that many people no longer believe in love. Don't believe in promises. Not even believing in oneself. I'm not even sure if I'll change my heart in the future. How can one demand of others?
The surroundings are filled with divorces, betrayals, extramarital affairs and illegitimate children. Can my marriage escape this disaster? Is it really okay inside this besieged city? Once it goes in and out, it becomes second-hand. One must be cautious.
Secondly, it is the issue of people. This is also a key point.
The person you want to marry doesn't want to marry. Those we want to marry, we don't want to. People are all despicable creatures. What one doesn't get may not be that good. But I still can't stop thinking about it. Fawning and flattering, putting the other person in the supreme and most beloved position in one's heart. Crying and Shouting that she wanted to marry someone else. They may not even appreciate it. But they just turn a blind eye to the silent contributors around them. Holding you and loving you. He really regarded himself as the emperor. No matter how good the other party's conditions are, one still feels wronged. I'm always reluctant to "marry low". Ultimately. ta was just unlucky to take a fancy to you first.
There are still some people. There is neither anyone I want to marry nor anyone I want to marry. The entire love is not in the service area. A little corner forgotten by love. Alas... If you can still handle the pressure of being single. Well. It's better to have nothing than something of poor quality. Once such people become overused. It can no longer be contained.
No matter how simple getting married is. It's also a matter for two people. I looked around at someone. Who are you marrying? Don't mention blind dates to me yet. I started getting involved in this matter five years ago. It's very professional. To put it bluntly, a blind date is all about finding faults. Buy cabbages with tinted glasses. Not all of them have turned green. Purple is not as charming as autumn.
Finally, the issue of money. This question. It's really big. It's small, though.
The poor and the mean feel sorry for everything. This statement must make sense. Money. It must be the biggest obstacle faced by many poor and humble young couples. The husband has feelings and the wife has intentions. The manpower is in place. My mindset is always ready like that of a Young Pioneer. The two were so deeply in love that they couldn't bear to part. I can't wait to build a little nest and have children right away. But where can I find this little nest? To put it bluntly, it's a house. To put it bluntly, it's all about money. No money means no house. Even if it's rented, it still costs money, right?
It is said that marriage is the tomb of love. You can't even enter the grave without a house! Then there would be no place to be buried! The so-called sense of security and belonging of women. When in love, it is a reliable shoulder and a warm embrace. But as soon as they get married, women immediately change from romanticism to realism. No matter how warm and generous the embrace was once, it is now not as solid as the concrete and steel. [page]
In the countryside before. A tiled house is enough to hold a happy event. Later on, for our parents' generation. As long as one gets married, there will be a housing allocation for the company's welfare. Now. With the popularization of universities, people have become prosperous. On the contrary, we can't even achieve a peaceful and prosperous life.
I graduated from university in my twenties. It's quite good to have a stable income from a fixed employer. No matter how good a company is, it won't offer free houses. How can one get married without a house? If parents have some financial savings. I'll buy you a house and a car. That fortune-teller is good. How many college students borrow money from all over the place to go to school? Still want to buy a house after graduation? Let's talk about repaying the debt for five or six years first.
Sure. There must also be those who start from scratch. Those who achieve success through hard work. But when he had nothing to do. How can you be sure if he will succeed? If you have such a sharp eye, you'll just wait. By the way, read more novels and TV series about men who abandon their wives after achieving success.
Apart from the house. There are so many places where money is needed for a wedding. What about deposits, rings, wedding photos... Everything is missing. Let's just talk about the ring. I have no idea who invented it. Anyway, getting married means having it! From proposal, engagement to marriage. Which step is missing a ring? It can't be an ordinary ring yet. It must be a "diamond ring" symbolizing eternal love!
When proposing, you are made of copper, iron, plastic, even if it's made of straw. A woman's romantic little feelings are no longer cared about at first sight. But when getting married, one can't just deceive someone like this, can they? Could you bear to let the bride walk into the rented new house with you wearing an aluminum alloy ring?
But why is this tiny stone so valuable? It can definitely make a self-reliant young man "go bankrupt at once"! So. The grand vision of getting married was ruined by just a few pieces of cement and stones.
Of course, there are also those who have come to terms with things and don't care about this. For four years, whenever the topic of marriage comes up, it's always about not buying diamond rings, not taking wedding photos, and not holding banquets. A completely new "three-no man".
You've saved yourself a lot of trouble. How many women also want to save trouble? Anyway, the vast majority of women can't do it. Wedding photos must be taken. We still need to take good pictures. Hit hard! I won't break up until it's so stunning that it captivates the whole country!
Every family has its own troubles. Marriage also varies from person to person. After all, it's a major event in life. Although the post-80s generation has relatively limited experience. But we also know how to write the word "responsibility". Hope we take good care of ourselves now. Cherish the days we spend together. I won't regret it in the future!
The post-80s generation is the mainstream of today's society or is about to become the mainstream of society. The intention of writing this article is to draw social attention. People born in the 1980s should keep pace with The Times. The ideas and concepts given to us by the outside world are also constantly changing. There are so many things we are facing. The burden on my shoulders is getting heavier and heavier. If the life of this generation is not harmonious. Can society be harmonious? Sichuan Faneng Law Firm is dedicated to serving you.